I felt like an experimentalist

A transition

I didn’t like watching movies. But then, I started watching English movies without subtitles to have fun with the pure language and learn something from it. As I progressed in my English, I sensed that my world was going through a transition. Everything was constantly changing in my mind. The English language was making me more powerful. By searching on the Internet, I could read anything I wanted. Since then, my English world has never stopped growing, and it’s still keeping on the path it was on.

In addition to English, I fancied other languages, like Spanish, French, and German. But my feelings for English, especially British English, were intense. It’s strange that I never felt English was a foreign language. 

I remember when I was four years old. At that moment, I had a huge interest in learning a language, but my parents didn’t send me to any school. They believed there was an age for everything, and when it was time, I would experience the process of language learning, too. 

Every language is magic

My friend asked me, “Do I believe in magic?” I said, ” Not the way they demonstrate it. The real magic is in every language. You don’t need to be Merlin to know how magic works. Speaking in a language is magic, and when you master it, you have made a new weapon and a tool at the same time. 

Two questions

Because I believe in the magic of language, it made me think that the mostly the only way to heal the wounds of a soul is just talking with someone else. Even when we think, we need the words to think with. Without words, there is no structure and shape. 

Here are two questions that should be answered:

1. What is the relationship between language and thinking?
2. What is the relationship between cognitive development and learning?

Unlike Piaget’s notion that children’s cognitive development must necessarily precede their learning, Vygotsky argued, “learning is a necessary and universal aspect of the process of developing culturally organized, specifically human psychological function”.  In other words, social learning precedes development. (1)

According to Piaget, language depends on thought for its development. For Vygotsky, thought and language are initially separate systems from the beginning of life, merging at around three years of age to produce verbal thought (inner speech).

I felt like an experimentalist

There is a sentence in the movie Aloha that Rachel McAdams says: “Every way you turn, someone’s heart will be broken. When you think about this sentence, you realize how life goes around different feelings. It seems vital for mental health that we feel different and colorful feelings. If we think like this, we won’t be scared of new experiences anymore because we won’t categorize the feelings as positive or negative. We accept feelings as experiences that will help us to grow and strengthen our roots.

Three differences

For a long time, I thought they were special, and there was no way for me to get to them. Then I asked myself: “Why should I do the things they do? I have the freedom to choose.” So, I looked into my relationships, especially my friendships. I was looking for the signs to show me how to differentiate people from each other. If you have watched some biographical movies, you know that the fundamental differences are three things:

1) Avoid procrastination
2) Doing something repetitively (keep on doing something no matter what)
3)  Be patient for reaching a results and have perseverance 

If you knew achieving something only needs your interior trust and perseverance, you would start right now fighting for the things you abandoned a long time ago.

Is happiness accessible? 

There is a sentence in the movie “A Good Year” in which Max (Russel Crowe) says: “This place doesn’t suit my life. And the Fanny (Marion Cotillard) says: “No, Max It’s your life that doesn’t suit this place.” That was the most evident example that came to my mind every time. This is how we think, which makes us behave or react in different ways. 

That’s the difference between the people who continue and those ones who give up. It matters you see the walls around yourself as walls or as a factor to push your mind to think about it. 

Carl Rogers (1959) believed that humans have one basic motive: the tendency to self-actualize. According to Rogers, self-actualization is possible with a positive self-regard, which requires unconditional positive regard from others. Rogers described an individual who is self-actualizing as a fully functioning person, emphasizing the influence of childhood experiences on this process. He believed that every person has the potential to achieve self-actualization by being in touch with the present, growing and changing continually. Rogers viewed the fully functioning person as an ideal that represents an ongoing process of becoming and changing, rather than an endpoint. (2)

(1) Vygotsky Vs. Piaget: A Paradigm Shift
(2) Carl Rogers Humanistic Theory And Contribution To Psychology