There are some moments in our lives that make us realize how life can be wonderful when spending it with someone else. How much time is going quickly and fun when you spend it with the people you like!
Three scenes from “Newness”
First
“Love is the two who don’t give up on each other.” That was what Martin’s friend told him when he was hopeless of making his relationship work. “Whatever,” Martin said in answer. And his friends continued: “To have family, love, and happiness and to make it to work, you have to pursue it. Don’t live it up to fate.
In the relationship genre, I have rarely seen movies like “Newness” because this movie shows what’s going on in young people’s minds nowadays. The way the movie has been put together will make you feel there are movies to make you think about your behaviors more.
Second
There is a scene in which Gabi talks with the older man whom she has a relationship with. Gabi is angry with him. “Do you want transparency?” and she answers, “Yes”. “This whole relationship is based on me. I provide the bed you sleep on. You play with my daughter, I give you a boat trip. You have sex with me, and I buy you a necklace. This is how you introduced yourself to me. You never wanted something serious,” the elder man adds. And Gabi answers: “You have your whole life set, and I’m the one who hasn’t started hers. I’m going to start it but not with you.”
I mentioned these two scenes above all the other scenes because they keep repeating in my mind. They show how introducing ourselves to others is one of the most important parts of a real relationship. How we keep on trusting each other and not giving up on each other is what makes a difference in relationships.
Third
And the last scene makes you think of the meaning of forgiveness and not giving up on each other. Gabi sees Martin. They talk. Gabi starts: “I think I want sth of my own now. I want sth serious. And I think if I try hard I can find a way with you. Because when we were together, it was magic.” Martin answers: “You do know that it can’t be like before?” Gabi says: “When I say I do, believe me, I do. I don’t want it like before.” Martin answers: “I really want you, only you.” Gabi adds: “We are gonna get bored of each other. And we’re gonna resent each other too.” Martin continues: “Bored is good. We remind each other why we’re worth it.”
Love is essential
Humans’ quest for significance began the moment they started crying. From this very moment, we learn that love is essential, as philosopher Hegel declared: “To exist is to be recognized.”
Despite the fact that we know love as irrational, guided by passion rather than reason, there is still logic to this phenomenon: You love someone who loves you back. Viewed from the SQT (significance quest theory), loving is more selfish than people realize. Our choices in love are, mostly subconsciously, designed to satisfy our own need for significance.
Based on empirical studies, merit, and appreciation are necessary conditions for falling in love. Positive regard and affection, responsiveness, understanding, and attentiveness are all ways of showing appreciation. Merit pertains to the perceived characteristics of the partner that deems desirable. Although partner merits are largely affected by the social norms of society, they are still subjective. (1)
1 comments On Love is the two who don’t give up on each other
You mentioned the dialogues that remind in my mind too.
I think I kinda had the same experience.
This movie is one of my star ones.
I watched it at the right time that I should.
By the way
Thanks for introducing this movie.